Blog – 21 Lessons learnt from Loss

The Story of life goes on

Day 19 of 21

19 May 2022

“It’s hard o turn the page

when you now someone

won’t be in the next chapter,

but the story must go on” By Thomas Wilder

It was hard to imagine a world without our mum as everything in our world seemed to have stopped the moment she left. She was the centre of our universe and all our lives revolved around her. She was our role model in “our story of life” and we didn’t know how to continue playing our parts.

Over the last seven years, I have come to understand that we all have our own unique roles to play – “the reason why we are here.”. We all have to play this role to the best of our knowledge, capacity and capability which we draw from our life experiences and perhaps past lives too. Once we have learnt the lessons which we have come here for, gained a deep understanding of life, some level of detachment from material things, a forgiving heart and a wish to do good for others, we perhaps have played out part in life and our story (the one we chose to play).

People say “her time was up.”. What does that mean? Does that mean she had fulfilled her life plan and then left? A lot of cultures would reason with this, but as humans, we look at our loss and how it has affected us and selfishly, we never want to lose our loved ones, even if we have that deeper level of understanding of life.

We have a choice, do we forever keep our story on hold or do we turn the pages of our story and continue life and fulfil what we have come here for? As hard as it was, we turned the page. And we have had many ups and downs in the last seven years. Some days we are sad as she is not here to join us on particular pages in our story and some days we smile remembering special memories that we all had shared in our pages of life.

As I turn each page of my life, I realise that my mum is still in every page. She has always been the root of my story and always will be. She is the reason why I questioned life and went on a journey to gain a deeper understanding about life and death. She is the reason why became a Reiki Master as I wanted to experience the universal life force energy, and in doing so I feel closer to her. She is the reason why I now support people who have lost their loved ones and assist them with their grief. She is the reason why I smile, knowing that with all the work I do and give comfort to others, she is with me every step of the way. And as long as I live and continue her legacy, she also continues to live in her own way.

That’s my story